Wednesday, December 19, 2007

The True Meaning of Christmas

"Love the gift-giver, and not the gift."

- Anonymous

Friday, December 14, 2007

The Light of Home Is Heaven (and Vice Versa)

Heaven and Home are the same thing in many ways.

When I was growing up on Erie Street in Rochester, I was gifted with a beautiful family. My Mom and Dad each had several sisters and brothers that trinkled into our family and created hundreds of cousins and relatives. As such, every night was a party, everyday was a coffee break, and every moment was embraceful joy.

But a yearning for "something else" started to draw me away from this wonderful life with which I was blessed. I wanted to go to Hollywood and become a "star".

So, little by little, I started to draw my plan. Over the years, I moved back and forth from Rochester to Los Angeles. I lived here a little bit. I lived there a little bit. And then it seemed, like all of a sudden, the family that I had known and loved my entire life was gone.

Many aunts and uncles passed away. My cousins who were my best friends moved away. Seemingly, everyone had abandoned me. Yet, I had first abandoned them - for Hollywood.

I left the warmth and love of my family for the counterfit love of Hollywood and potential stardom - a life that I thought would have offered more than what I had already.

And that's exactly what happened when we left Heaven for life on Earth. Everything was fine in Heaven. We existed as pure Orb Beings of Light.

Then, through the gift of free will, granted to us by God=Love, we desired that "something else"...we yearned for a different kind of life - a "better" life - and we thought we would find it on Earth. Just like I thought I would have found more satisfaction in Hollywood than in Rochester.

As you may have heard me say before, I have learned that it is more important to live the scripts of life, then to write them. And I reach to meet that challenge every embrace the simple treasured life of what I learned and experienced on Erie Street.

As to how to prepare and make way for your journey to Heaven while you're still on Earth?

Here's some advice:

Bless those who curse you, forgive those who hurt you and Love those who hate you. Because you only take with you to Heaven every gentle act and intention of Love and Loving-Kindness. Everything else that is not love, melts away in the glow of God's unconditional Love.

So, essentially, in order for your Light to shine in your true Spiritual Home in Heaven, it first must shine from your Physical Home here on Earth.

Happy Holidays!

Tuesday, December 11, 2007

My Top Ten Christmas Carols (Songs) Of All Time

1] CHRISTMASTIME IS HERE (Written by Vince Guaraldi - from A Charlie Brown Christmas)

Show me a better song representative of Christmas? Okay, maybe The Christmas Song by Nat King Cole - but nothing revs up the Holiday heart strings like this classic tune sung by the Peanuts gang on one of the best Christmas TV specials of all time (see previous post - and see video link below).

2] THERE'S ALWAYS TOMORROW (FOR DREAMS TO COME TRUE) By Janet Orenstein from Rudolph, The Red-Nosed Reindeer TV special.

Like Christmastime is Here from A Charlie Brown Christmas, this true-love bearing (and en-deer-ing) song from TV's other classic perennial, Rudolph, the Red-Nosed Reindeer, hits all the right chords. Years after first hearing it as a kid, my college crush Debbie Bell (yep, that was her name) sang this for me on her piano. And I couldn't believe she had the sheet music.

3] SILVER & GOLD (performed by Burl Ives on Rudolph).

Stripping away the materialism of what it may appear to mean (silver and gold money, for example), this song caters to core of Christmas - and teaches us to decorate our trees with only the sincerest of colors (that you just know somehow glisten on and make into Heaven - which, of course, is already paved with silver and gold).

4] HOLLY-JOLLY CHRISTMAS (performed by Burl Ives on Rudolph).

Put away your frown, Mr. Scrooge...I dare you not to dance when you hear this jingle bell.

5] LAST CHRISTMAS by George Michael.

George has certainly had his share of issues in the years since his early days with WHAM, but this song wasn't one of 'em. Instead, it goes down in history as one of the most beautiful and somber pop-rock carols of all time.


Like George Michael before her, Mariah Carey has experienced a few personal challenges in recent years. However, her talent is astounding - and her voice is pure - as is so pristinely evident heart-felt holiday rockin' tune.

7] FELICE NAVIDA by Jose Feliciano.

Before it became hip for non-Latinos to speak Spanish in the US, the gifted Jose Ferrer introduced mainstream Americana to the international sounds of Christmas with this bangin' gee-tar-driven holiday present that broke the language barrier.

8] SO THIS IS CHRISTMAS (offcially titled Happy Christmas) by John Lennon.

One would expect nothing less from the man who brought us the timeless beauty of Imagine.

9] LITTLE SAINT NICK by Brian Wilson (and Mike Love).

The genius of The Beach Boys' Brian Wilson is front and center for Christmas. And is it really any wonder that this tune appears on TBB's first Christmas album, which just so happened to be released in the same year (1964) that Rudolph debuted on TV? 'Course not. The angels know what they're doing.


Before being charitable in the public eye became cool, this haunting tune was recorded to help feed the hungry - not only of the body - but of the heart and the soul. In the process, it reminds us exactly what Christmas is supposed to be all about (clue: not buying Christmas gifts at the mall, which opens at 4 AM on Black Friday).

I now leave you with a holiday invitation to listen to and look at a very special Christmastime - by clicking on the link below.

Sunday, December 09, 2007

Oprah Winfrey Presents: Mitch Albom's FOR ONE MORE DAY On ABC

"If only I had one more day to...."

"...Tell her I loved her?"

"...Tell her how much I cared...?

"...Not to sit it out but dance...?"

Well, here's another chance reminder to not only go for the gusto, but to love and forgive everyone who has ever hurt you - to commit acts that will not only help to ease your days here on Earth - but to more clearly pave your path to Heaven.

As such, for your viewing pleasure tonight (and maybe your trip to the Light Fantastic through eternity), I highly recommend tonight's broadcast on ABC of Oprah Winfrey Presents: Mitch Albom's For One More Day. Come on, let it go - and let your Light shine...and let it commence from the glowing reflection from your TV screen via this astounding TV-movie, the details for which now follow:

Emmy Award-winning actor Michael Imperioli (The Sopranos) and Academy Award-winning actress Ellen Burstyn (The Fountain, The Exorcist) star in this two-hour TV-movie event, entitled, Oprah Winfrey Presents: Mitch Albom's For One More Day, premiering tonight (Sunday, December 9th on ABC from 9:00 to 11 PM.

The production, which wrapped this week, was shot primarily on location in Connecticut.

In the film, based on Albom's bestselling book For One More Day, Imperioli plays Chick Benetto, a broken-down former baseball player who has collapsed into alcoholism and despair. He returns one night to his small hometown with plans to take his life. At the final moment, he is magically granted one more day with his departed mother, Posey Benetto, played by Burstyn, who illuminates the secrets of both their lives and shows him a way to redemption.

Samantha Mathis (The Punisher, American Psycho) and Scott Cohen (Law & Order: Trial by Jury, upcoming show The Return of Jezebel James) also star. Michael Imperioli's son, Vadim Imperioli, plays the role of the younger Chick in his acting film debut.

Harpo Films produced the film under its Oprah Winfrey Presents banner for ABC. Oprah Winfrey and Kate Forte are the executive producers. Lloyd Kramer (Mitch Albom's The Five People You Meet in Heaven) directed the film, with the teleplay written by Mitch Albom. The previous collaboration by Oprah Winfrey, Kate Forte and Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie, yielded four Emmy wins, including for Outstanding Made-for-Television Movie and Outstanding Lead Actor in a Mini-Series or Movie.

Saturday, December 08, 2007

My Top 10 ANIMATED Christmas Specials

A few days ago, I listed my Top 10 Favorite Christmas TV-Movies. Now, it's time to do the same with animated Christmas specials. And away we go...

1] A Charlie Brown Christmas (CBS, 1965). Directed by Bill Melendez. Written by Charles Schulz.

Young voice-over talent Peter Robbins made his indelible mark as Charlie Brown in this poignant holiday classic that spawned a series of similar specials for every holiday. Here, Charlie Brown searches for the true meaning of Christmas and the perfect tree. While directing a school play, he ultimately finds both, though not before our young low-acheiver is confronted by a number of obstacles. None the least of these conflicts is presented by his own dog Snoopy's obsession with winning first prize for a local decorations competition, or by his mean-spirited peers who mock his choice of a tiny sickly tree. Through it all, Charlie continues to struggle for peace of mind in his December time, when he is forced to visit with his pseudo-psycholgoist friend (and foe) Lucy, who offers him a 5 cents therapy session. Following a desperate plea (during which he screams, "Can't anyone tell me what Christmas is all about?!"), CB finally hears the real deal - from Lucy's young brother Linus, of all people. "I can tell you," Linus reveals. And in one of the most uniquely animated moments in the history of the genre, Linus goes on to quote the Biblical story of the first Christmas. In a matter of moments, CB's misguided pals realize their inconsideration and, with the help and reconfiguration of Snoopy's prize-winning decorations, breathe life into a once-listless tree - further uncovering and "illuminating" the true meaning of Christmas. "Hark the herald" these young animated angels then all sing.

2] Rudolph, The Red-Nosed Reindeer (CBS, 1964): Directed by Kizo Nagashima and Larry Roemer. Written by Robert May and Romeo Miller.

A "true love" story. Lessons about maturity, responsibility, pride, prejduice, ambition and acceptance; deciphering "deer pressure" from "elf-improvement." Dispelling the fear surrounding a visit to the dentist? Learning that no toy is happy unless it is truly loved by a child? Some of the most beautiful Christmas songs ever written (There's Always Tomorrow; Silver and Gold). What else could anyone want in a Christmas TV special? This classic always signals the commencement of the holiday season - and reminds me so much to slow my pace and shine on until the morning - and beyond. Featuring the awesome talents of Burl Ives, who we first meet in the North Pole midst of a field of Christmas trees ("Yep - this is where we grow 'em?).

3] Santa Claus Is Comin' To Town (ABC, 1969): Directed by Jules Bass and Arthur Rankin, Jr. Written by Romeo Miller.

Taking it's cue from Rudolph, this smart Christmas tale expands on the popularity of a Christmas song and threads a charming tale about the origins of St. Nick - here voiced by Mickey Rooney. Also along for the ride: Fred Astaire (serving the narrator purpose, alla Burl Ives on Rudolph) as the Christmas Mailman. Also featuring the vocal talents of Keenan Wynn, Paul Frees, Joan Gardner and Robie Lester.

4] The Year Without A Santa Claus (ABC, 1974): Directed by Jules Bass and Arthur Rankin, Jr. Written by William Keenan and based on the novel by Phyllis McGinley.

Mickey Rooney returns as Santa, this time joined by Shirley Hazel Booth as Mrs. Claus in smart take that may be sub-coded, Santa Takes A Holiday - as the jolly one gets sick and decides to take a break from Christmas. As such, a quite sophisticated animated tale is delivered, along with an astounding message and pristine dialogue. In fact, this cartoon was so impressive, it spawned a life-action TV-movie (starring John Goodman) in 2006.

5] A Christmas Carol (Syndicated, 1970). Directed by Zoran Janjic. Written by Michael Robinson and based on the classic novel by Charles Dickens.

Who says television isn't educational? This was my introduction to the great mind of Charles Dickens. Up until then, I thought cartoons only meant Scooby Doo, Where Are You? - not to mention, great literature. Starring the voiceover talents of Alistair Duncan, Ron Haddick (as Scrooge), John Llewellyn, Bruce Montague, Brenda Senders and many others.

6] The Night The Animals Talked (CBS, 1970): Directed by Shamus Culhane. Written by Peter Fernandez, Jan Hartman and others.

Just about his far away from Dr. Doolittle as you can get, we learn here what the animals were thinking at the birth of Christ. They are granted the gift of gab - and we are granted the gift of insight. Mind-boggling - and aeons ahead of its time. Starring the vocal gymnastics of Pat Bright, Ruth Franklin, Bob Kaliban, Len Maxwell, Joe Silver, Frank Porella and others.

7] 'Twas The Night Before Christmas (CBS, 1974): Directed by Jules Bass and Arthur Rankin, Jr. Written by Jerome Coopersmith and based on the poem by Clement Moore.

Producers/directors Bass and Rankin steered away from stop-action animation (Rudolph, Santa Claus Is Comin' To Town) and headed into the then-more traditional animatrics of the era. What's more, it's also told in a 30-minute format (as opposed to the aforementioned 60-minutes, though first completed a few years before with Frosty the Snowman in 1969). But their style is still evident especially drawn in the eyes and "heart" of each character. A sweet narrative delivery of a perfect holiday ryhme. Feauturing the voices of Patricia Bright, Scott Firestone, George Gobel (Hollywood Squares), Broadway giant and film legend Joel Grey, and Tammy Grimes (the original choice for Samantha on TV's Bewitched; but she said no),

8] The Little Drummer Boy (NBC, 1968): Directed by Jules Bass, Arthur Rankin, Jr. and others. Written by Romeo Muller.

Two years after CBS got heavy with A Charlie Brown Christmas, the Peacock network delivered this equally-deep and spiritual take on an animated Christmas TV special. Based on the classic song (that was later historically duetted by Bing Crosby and David Bowie on one of BC's traditional NBC Holiday specials). Starring the vocal prowess of Jose Ferrer, Paul Frees, June Foray, and narrated by Greer Garson.

9] How The Grinch Stole Christmas (CBS, 1966): Directed by Chuck Jones and Ben Washam. Written by Bob Ogle and based on the book by Dr. Seuss.

Director Ron Howard and actor Jim Carrey made a valiant attempt to bring Whoville to the live big-screen a few years back, but ain't nothing like the original unreal thing - especially due to the vocal brilliance of Boris Karloff.

10] Frosty The Snowman (CBS, 1969): Directed by Jules Bass and Arthur Rankin. Written by Romeo Miller.

Here, Jimmy Durrante (like his compadres Burl Ives and Fred Astaire before) serves as narrator to yet another Christmas carol come to life - along with Frosty. A sequel (Frosty Returns) later followed (with John Goodman, years before he donned the live action edition of The Year Without A Santa Claus - stepped in for Jackie Vernon). But it wasn't the same. Also starring the voices of the great Billie De Wolfe (The Doris Day Show), and Bass/Rankin/Miller stalwharts Paul Frees and June Foray.

Tuesday, December 04, 2007

My Top Ten Christmas TV-Movies Of All Time

Wow - Christmas TV-movies are popping up like hotcakes. The Hallmark Channel and Lifetime keep making new ones every year, there's always at least one on CBS (via the Hallmark Hall of Fame productions), and ABC Family and the i network (formerly PAX TV) have their share of Santa-plus stories as well.

Either way, it's definately time to take a look at the best of the crop (in my humble opinion - okay, how 'bout just opinion) that have been aired over the years - and hopefully, you'll agree (I just LOVE yes people). But please, too, feel free to comment and add your own choices to the list.

So, here we go:

1] THE HOUSE WITHOUT A CHRISTMAS TREE (CBS, 1972): Directed by Paul Bogart. Written by Eleanor Perry and Gail Rock. Based on the book by Rock.

Jamie Mills (played by the great Jason Robards) has grown bitter over the years after losing his wife a decade before. As such, he no longer celebrates Christmas and refuse to put a tree. But this is no run-of-the-mill take on Scrooge - especially after watching Jaime's young daughter Addie (Lisa Lucas) ultimately drag a decorated tree through town and into the Mills living room. If you're looking for your heart, you'll find it in this movie. Mildred Natwick offerred her usual perfect performance, here - in a supporting role - as Robards' mother. Special note: This flick's budget was low, forcing it to be videotaped (like everything pretty much today - though some TV shows and movies make it look like film). But somehow it adds to the "reality".

2] MIRACLE ON 34TH STREET (CBS, 1973): Directed by Fielder Cook. Written by Valentine Davies, Jeb Rosebrook (and others).

No, it ain't the original 1947 feature film classic (with a tiny Natalie Wood), but it sure as heck ain't the overblown remake from 1994. Nope, this little puppy of a version starred the late Sebastian Cabot (Mr. French from TV's Family Affair), David Hartman (soon to be an early rising staple on ABC's Good Morning, America) and Jane Alexander (who was just about to find super fame playing Eleanor Rosevelt in a series of TV-movies for ABC). Look also for this astounding supporting cast: Roddy McDowall, Jim Backus (Gilligan's Isalnd, Mr. Magoo), James Gregory (Barny Miller), Conrad Janis (Mork & Mindy), Roland Winters, and David Doyle (Charlie's Angels) and Tom Bosley (Happy Days) - the latter two of whom have been cross-identified by viewers for years - and who appeared here on screen together for the first time. you can't beat that - and you can't beat this TV-flick for slick production values (for its time), nostalgia (on so many fronts) and a straight-forward "logic within the illogic" script. Awesome. Just awesome. Everything a Christmas TV-movie (or any TV-movie for that matter) should be.

3] FATHER KNOWS BEST: HOME FOR CHRISTMAS (NBC, 1977): Directed by Norman Abbott and based on the original TV series created by Ed James.

Like The House Without A Christmas Tree, this TV-flick was produced with an extremely low budget (it wasn't even filmed like the original series, but videotaped - like a daytime soap opera). But little matter. The script is in place, story is home-made-for-TV, and the cast is dynamite, including all original members of the original Father series, such as: Robert Young (Marcus Welby, MD), Jane Wyatt (Spock's mom on Star Trek), Lauren Chapin, Elinor Donahue (who later married the much-older executive producer Harry Bewitched Ackerman), Christopher Gardner, and Billy Gray. When Young as Jim Anderson puts up those Christmas lights outside the house, I can't help but be reminded of my super Uncle Carl - who did the same for so many years on Erie Street. This movie will remind you of similar memories I'm sure.

4] SAINT MAYBE (1998, CBS): Directed by Michael Pressman. Written by Robert W. Lenski. Based on the book by Anne Tyler.

Not a Christmas movie, per se, but filled with the astounding spirit of one. Thomas McCarthy plays a lonely teen who works past a tragic car accident that kills his sister, and forces him to care for her three children. Moving, pristine and downright awe-inspiring. Also starring Blythe Danner, Edward Hermann (who played alongside the aforementioned Jane Alexander in those Rosevelt TV-movies), the beautiful Melina Kanakaraedes, Mary-Louise Parker (Weeds), and former TV-movie queen, Glynnis O'Connor.

5] CHRISTMAS ON DIVISION STREET (1991, ABC). Directed by George Kaczender. Written by Barry Morrow.

As usual, Fred Savage (The Wonder Years) delivers another fine performance, this time as the privledged offspring of wealthy parents who learn the true meaning of Christmas from their son (who learns it from a homeless man). Hint: it doesn't have anything to do with buying lots of expensive, materialistic gifts for people. Also starring Hume Cronyn, Badja Djola, Cloyce Morrow, Kenneth Walsh and Kahla Lichti.

6] A DAD FOR CHRISTMAS (a.k.a. Me and Luke, 2006, CBS). Directed by Eleanor Lindo. Written by Alan Hines. Based on the novel (Me and Luke) by Audrey O'Hearn.

As with Saint Maybe, this pristine small screen film is not clearly defined as a Christmas TV-movie (though there's a Christmas dinner in there at the end). But it's infested with the spirit. Newcomer Kristopher Turner plays a compassionate teen father who sets out to protec and claim his newborn son from the likes of the child's selfish mother. The Oscar-winning Louise Fletcher, as the Turner's grandmother, steps up to the plate as the first-time Dad's main ally.
Also starring Philip Akin, Lindsay Ames, and others.

7] BORROWED HEARTS: A HOLIDAY ROMANCE (1997, CBS): Directed by Ted Kotcheff. Written by Pamel Wallace and Earl W. Wallace.

Roma Downey is no angel. But Hector Elizondo is in this flick, which also stars Eric McCormack in a pre-Will & Grace straight role. Bottom line: She's poor. He's her rich, snobby corporate boss - and they're both brought together by her daughter Carly (Janet Baily) - with a little help from an Elizondo.

8] IT HAPPENED ONE CHRISTMAS (1977, ABC): Directed by Donald Wrye. Written by Jo Swerling and Frank Capra.

Before the rest of the universe realized how wonderful It's A Wonderful Life is, That Girl star Marlo Thomas reworked the 1947 Jimmy Stewart classic with a female twist. And the results were impressive. It's probably BECAUSE of this small-screener that people began to become obsessed with the original. Also starring the iconic Orson Welles (as Mr. Potter), Wayne Rogers (M*A*S*H), Cloris Leachman (The Mary Tyler Moore Show), Dick O'Neil, Cliff Norton, Christoper Guest, C. Thomas Howell and Doris Roberts (Everybody Loves Raymond) and Ma Baily.

9] A CHRISTMAS CAROL (1984, CBS). Directed by Clive Donner. Written by Roger O. Hirsen - and Charles Dickens

Though the Charles Dickens classic has been remade about a gazillion times, this version starring George C. Scott takes the cake - and the entire dessert table. A top-level, A-List production from every angle. Also starring: Frank Finlay, Angela Pleasence, Edward Woodward, David Warner, Susannah York, Roger Rees, and so many other fine actors.

10] THE NIGHT THEY SAVED CHRISTMAS (CBS, 1984): Directed by Jackie Cooper. Written by Jim Maloney.

A lot better than you would think - with the additional benefits of Charlie's Angels beauty Jaclyn Smith, the legendary Art Carney (The Honeymooners), Paul Le Mat (who starred opposite Smith's Angels co-star Farrah Fawcett in 1985's The Burning Bed), June Lockhart (Lost in Space), Paul Williams, Scott Grimes and many others.

Sunday, December 02, 2007

Peace on Earth.


Thursday, November 29, 2007

Lorraine's Food Factory: The Perfect Choice For Your Holiday Event - or ANY Day

For the last few years I have personally discovered what everyone else on the planet has already known for years:

Lorraine's Food Factory (formerly Lorraine's Lunch Basket) has just about the finest food in the city - if not the world - as she has catered movie, TV and music stars around the globe (including Frank Sinatra, Jerry Seinfeld, Barbra Streisand - even former President Clinton).

I sauntered into Lorraine's awesome establishment (located at 777 Culver Road, at the corner of Main) some 18 months for lunch and was struck numb with a delicious meal. Her homemade pizza (in any of its various forms)? Astounding! Any one of her numerous wraps? Out of this world...ain't no other way to say it.

Since that first encounter (in the summer of 2006), I have had the pleasure of grazing at Lorraine's an assortment of times, either for lunch or dinner. In the meantime, too, I was sure to have Lorraine's cater two major events that I have hosted: My Mom's 85th Birthday celebration last year, and just last week: my own book/music CD signing party.

The food in each case was pristine. The service, top-notch - and the presentation: elegant - to say the least.

I highly recommend Lorraine's Food Factory, as the location itself - or for your personal and/or professional catering needs - this Holiday Season - or at any time during the year.

Click on the link at the bottom of this post for all contact/website/location information for Lorraine's Food Factory - or which see this information here:

777 Culver Road
Rochester, New York 14609
585-442-6574 • 585-442-7818
Catering Line1-800-582-2837

Monday, November 26, 2007

Thanksgiving At The School "Home" That Love Built

"There's too much love at the end of that dark country road. How could I not make it there for Thanksgiving?"

That's what I told myself last week as I was driving 45 miles down 104 West from Irondequoit to the home of my cousin's George and Sue Borrelli in Waterport, New York. It didn't matter that a mini-snow blizzard had begun, that my Mom's new "personality" (courtesy of her dimentia) was in full-swing, or that it was already dark by the time we made it half way down that long country stretch.

All that mattered, is that we were on our way to spend time with loving family members who gracefully look past my Mom's new "issues" and who, instead, employ a kind of unconditional love that you only see and hear about in the movies.

But this was no movie. This was reality.

Only 10 days before, my cousins' George and Sue, George's sister, Mary, and my new cousin "Flaverelli" - recently married to George's brother Guy, had already attended yet another special family occasion: the signing for my two new books and CD. Here, it was they who made the 45 mile trek from Waterport to Irondequoit - to show their support of their cousin Herbie J.

In return, how could I not then accept George and Sue's beautiful invitation to spend Thanksgiving at their country palace - especially too, because my Mom would have the chance to spend some time with my Aunt Sue (my father's sister).

Oh, sure - for years, I had been telling everyone that my cousins purchased an old church and transformed it into a home. "The spirituality of it all," I thought. "What better place to spend Thanksiving but in a country home that was once an old church."

Come to find out, it's an old former schoolhouse, and not a church. But the lesson experienced was just as heartwarming, kindred and all-embracing as if it was indeed a holy place of worship.

For is not a church a structure built on love? My cousins George and Sue transformed it so - as both are creative and talented in the ways of style and substance (George, in particular, is a brilliant artisan of woodmaking and metals).

Is not a church a place where all feel welcome, and in which no one is judged? Is not a church created of a congregation where all may find solace and acceptance? Does not a church feed those who have hunger in their bellies and ample room in their hearts?

As such, me and my Mom were were fed with all the deliciousness of turkey, stuffing and more that are the traditions of the Thanksgiving holiday. But we were also fed with amazing grace - the kind of food that replenishes not only the body, but the mind and the soul.

And even though my Mom may have forgotten most of the evening a mere 30 minutes after she returned home to Irondequoit, her heart - and the huge part of her being that will one day be brought to Heaven - will ever remember it.

As will God.

Friday, November 23, 2007

Herbie J Was A Victim of Identity & Check Fraud

Last month, my identity was stolen off of one of my credit cards. The thief then coded into into my bank account and made hundreds of dollars in purchases. Gratefully, my bank's astounding personnel were on the case, and the situation was resolved.

Last week, I received what I thought was a legitimate check in the mail from an arts organization that grants funding to authors and writers to assist with their artistic endeavors.

The check turned out to be fraudulent and, as a result, my finances were transformed into a complete disarray. So much so that, on the day that I discovered this horrible development, I nearly collapsed into an emotional and physical stuper.

Gratefully, again - my bank has been so wonderfully supportive throughout this latest trauma (and there is no other word for it), that they working with me to resolve the issue.

In the meantime, there are several lessons to be learned here, two of which are as follows:

1] Guard your identity as carefully as possible


2] Don't depend on money for happiness.

The second lesson is a lesson all of us should have learned by now. But right when we think we have it down, a situation (like the one I have just experienced) surfaces to tell us otherwise.

Suffice it to say, when I received what I perceived as that grant check last week, I thought my financial worries were over. On Wednesday, however - when I learned that the check was fraudulent - my financial worries tripled.

I would not wish on anyone the personal and professional trauma that I have gone through over these last few days. It has been one of the most embarrassing experiences of my life.

Please, everyone - guard your identity and your financial transactions with the utmost care, taking every possible precaution beforehand and in preparation of each and every single bank transaction.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Thursday, November 15, 2007

Letterman Shows Class; Couric, Well...That's A Different Story

According to the LA Weekly, David Letterman and his producers yesterday morning announced to his Late Show staff that they will be paid through the end of the year even though the show isn't on the air during the Writers Strike. "Dave's not doing this to get good press, which is why it hasn't been reported for almost two days," a source revealed to the Weekly. "This is really significant because, as opposed to all of the other shows, this money comes out of Dave's own pocket."

As far as I'm concerned, Dave just went up a few notches on the humanity poll (pole?). Not that I am the Judge of All Humanity (at least, I don't think so).

Meanwhile, as far as judging goes, man - Katie Couric (who I warned two years ago as the poor choice anchor the CBS Evening News), clearly has some ME-ME-ME-Tube issues of her own.

See below links for the details to both Dave and Katie's latest escapades.



Tuesday, November 13, 2007


Here's a brief summary of sci-fi stories I'm in the process of developing into screenplays.



While NASA scientists work on a strategic new device to advance space exploration, astronaut Col. Peter Thomas finds himself with amnesia, abandoned on a barren desert planet. With each attempt to recall any piece of his life or career, he experiences excruciating physical agony, comforted only by a single chalice of water which materializes and then fades from sight upon quenching his thirst. Physically, emotionally and psychologically exhausted, but unable to sleep, Col. Thomas is soon greeted by a somewhat familiar being - The Sandman - a.k.a Alluvias - the mythical Earth figure who helps the sleepless find rest. Alluvias initially emerges as a kindly sort (with great insight into the colonel’s personal childhood memories), but things turn ugly when the Thomas refuses to go to the final resting place. – which apparently, is being commandeered by NASA.


It’s 1885, and astronomer Janez Roman not only designates Earth as the median of the universe, but as a planet that houses an expandable macrocosm of orbs placed within a world-realm. After close observation, Roman concludes that Earth does not orbit any sun or star, but is actually a central dwelling place that represents and sustains not only minute models of other worlds, but is the central core of their very existence. In other words, Earth is a birthing-planet. Unfortunately, Roman also discovers that the matrix for this universal mold center, or macroverse, as he calls it, is in severe degeneration, which means the state of the entire universe is at stake. So he sets out to save it.


A family in Pattenville, Arkansas is dumbfounded when they soon discover their small town devoid of all life, and polluted with what appears to alien carcasses - a domicile allegedly employed as a host-body dumping ground. Not a cemetery as we might know it, but certainly not a place for the living. What's more, there's apparently a method to this madness: the bodies, though not mummified, are arranged in a particular pattern, reminiscent of the Ancient Egyptian tombs - and they are directed toward a massive dark tunnel.


A young widower becomes obsessed with journeying into the past and preventing his wife’s death. His fervor and mission is interrupted, however, when he encounters a time-traveler from the future, who attempts to abort his research. Apparently, the Earth’s very existence depends on the death of this man’s wife. If the couple reconnects, they will eventually bear children who will, in turn, parent those destined to destroy the planet.


Members of a high-power public relations firm begin acting strange, and the company’s CEO orders each to see the company physician, who surmises that “something's wrong,” though she doesn't know exactly what. For further analysis, she suggests employees undertake daily examinations for a two-week period. Unfortunately, the situation only worsens, as the tests prove near fatal, due to doctor’s apparent malpractice - she’s been injecting a subtle form of poison into each employee – because the company’s CEO murdered her father.


Mary Parkins, 9-years-old, goes out to play one day in a neighborhood park, and meets The Gatekeeper, a patriarchal alien designated by The Evolved (a benevolent alien race) to file, categorize, measure and monitor each time someone frequents the park playground. Unhappy with the all-too gradual operation of Earth's scientific developments, the Gatekeeper employs little Mary, and uses her as a conduit to improve humanity’s progression - much, of course, to the chagrin of her parents. Meanwhile, too, the Evolved grow weary of what has become the Gatekeeper's increasing impatience and over-zealous nature. Consequently, they seek to replace him - with Mary.


A team of metaphysicians make a shocking discovery: everyone on the planet is disappearing. Literally. It is soon realized that those who disappear still exist, but in the invisible realm. Beings are present, but unseen. Sensed, but distant. After further inspection, the answer ultimately rests with a new-found, clear-view copy of the Dead Sea Scrolls.

Sunday, November 11, 2007

My Cousin MICHAEL BORRELLI Stars In Steve Martin's "The Underpants"

My talented and charismatic cousin MICHAEL BORRELLI stars in Steve Martin's The Underpants now on stage in Portland.

Check out the link below, which presents one of his TV interviews during which he chats about the production.

Monday, November 05, 2007

Thank You, Everyone!

This is a very exciting time for me.

I have been waiting more than 15 years to see the publications of my two new books: THE BIONIC BOOK: THE SIX MILLION DOLLAR MAN AND THE BIONIC WOMAN, and LIFE STORY - THE BOOK OF LIFE GOES ON - both of which have just been released by the great people of BearManor Media (presided over by my one-of-kind-publisher Ben Ohmart). Also, too, these books would have never turned out so wonderfully had it not been for my Life Goes On (and NBC & ME) editor Jacki Garfinkel, my Bionic editor Brendan Slattery, and Matt Hankinson - the genius designer behind the covers all three new books - and my first music CD (see below for more info). Along with my previous books on Bewitched and Kung Fu, THE BIONIC BOOK and LIFE STORY set out to prove that popular TV shows can be educational and have a positive influence on society - as well as just being plain fun to watch. Each of the shows that I have profiled through the years have been and remain special to me, and I was fortunate enough to have held exclusive conversations with the many awesome and talented individuals associated with each series. (And please see below for a link to a video clip of my recent TV appearance on Rochester's WHAM-13 Morning Show, when I talk about the new books.)

In the meantime, I am also excited to announce that I have just released my first music CD, entitled, TWO, the songs for which I wrote the music, lyrics and arrangements. But just as with my books, I could not have done any of it had it not been for the correct gathering of a super team, headed by George Schnell, of Rochester's George Schnell Productions. George (on lead guitar and keyboards) and his musical compadres, John Perevich (on base guitar and 12-string, and with whom I graduated from Aquinas Institute in 1978) and Joe Minotti (the super drummer boy on sticks and percussion). George, John and Joe, otherwise known as The Royals, have been a musical staple throughout New York for years - and I was honored to have them appear on the CD. The 12-string guitar rift alone that Johnny P. created (for my song, How Can I Get Close To You) makes the CD worth listening to.

And while I look forward to writing new books and songs, and creating and acting in new TV shows and feature films, I want to thank everyone who has supported my career (and life) over these last many "immortal" years. You all know who you are - and may God=Love bless each and every one of you again and again and again - into the joyful timelessness of forever.

WHAM TV-13 appearance

Wednesday, October 31, 2007

William Shatner, J.J. Abrams, Star Trek & The Hollywood Standard

William Shatner is upset that he has not been asked to reprise his famous Captain Kirk role for the reimagining of the Star Trek franchise with a new feature film. "I couldn't believe it," the actor said in a recent interview. "Having been in on the creation of it, I was hoping to be in on the recreation."

However, J.J. Abrams (Lost) - the new Trek movie's producer, writer and director - did not see it that way. He saw fit to ask Shatner's original Star co-star Leonard Nimoy to revisit his iconic Mr. Spock character. But not Shatner.

So, what's really going on here?

Unfortunately, it may have to do with Shatner's physical appearance - and the lowly high Hollywood standards of the day.

First and foremost, Shatner is out of shape. He's heavy. He looks bloated, and quite frankly, I'm very concerned about his health.

Secondly, his present brunette hair color and not match the original blonde Kirk of the early years on the original series. Also, too, Shatner's dark contemporary locks certainly do not match the fair hair hue of actor Chris Pine, the young actor who was recently cast by Abrams to play the young Kirk in the new movie.

While I completely endorse and applaud Abrams' decision to cast relative unknowns in the lead roles for the new Trek film (this, along with a great script, of course, is the key to the movie's success), I think I can speak for the rest of the Universe when I say, I am disappointed that Shatner, skinny or plump, will not beam aboard for this new adventure of the Enterprise crew.

The ever-slim Leonard Nimoy, however, will materialize in the movie because, fortunately for him, his looks are timeless. And though Shatner would tell it differently, Nimoy's Spock is ultimately more representative of the original Trek than any of the other characters.

Either way, if Shatner was at least somewhat healthier, something could have been worked out; Abrams might have requested the veteran actor's presence, in one way, shape or form as that of an elder Kirk in the film.

Though such a scenario has not been publically confirmed, it is safe and terribly sad to say that Shatner's historic interpretation of Captain Kirk has been "out-weighed" by a shallow Hollywood standard.

But what other potentially-true Hollywood story could be behind such a gastly and disrepectful decision and oversight?

Monday, October 29, 2007

Be The Light In The Dark

I was always the cutest little boy in my neighborhood. I could sing and dance, and do things that, on the average, the other little boys could not. As a result, all the little girls would want to kiss me - and all the little boys would beat me up.

But one day, I smiled at a bully who was on the attack. And I kept smiling, and he didn't hit me. He didn't call me any names. He didn't beat me up. Instead of running or crying in fear, I continued to smile real big at my young adversary. I somehow understood that, in essence, he was afraid - afraid that I knew something he didn't - or that somehow, my presence in the neighborhood would diminish his.

Ultimately, when I smiled at him, I was laughing in the face of fear...his fear and my own. I was afraid that I was going to be hurt - and he was afraid that my talents would outshine his. So he had to put a stop to that. But I beat him to the punch. Literally.

Moral of the story? We all have talents, and our own particular brand of perspective or life philosophy. One talent or opinion is not better than the other. Each of us has gifts and a Light inside of us that can never diminish the Light inside others.

Instead, we must band together to become a combined Light - and always remember laugh in the dark...and in the face of the biggest bully: fear.

Happy Halloween!

Sunday, October 28, 2007

Wisdom & Light Via My Good Friend Rudy at

My friend Rudy (a.k.a. "Rudenski") had an extensive "life-changing" Near-Death Experience over twenty years ago. In my own twenty-years plus experience of self-discovery, and researching various philosophies and religions from around the world, I have never come across - in a personal association - the wisdom and knowledge that one such as Rudy has had access to on a Direct basis. Rudy met and talked with the Father/Mother of LOVE - and, in return, received much wisdom and insight.

So, now - here's Rudy's post from this morning on But I urge you to not only read this particular post, but also each and every post on that Rudy has written. And you can do so by clicking on to the link that follows that passage.

So, here we go:

"I have a general dislike for religion - even if I am a wary participant in it - as I empathize with those who suffer at the hands of believers. But I do see a loving being whom I alternatively call Yah, God, The Father of Lights, Aba Father, The Greatest Most Loving Daddy and Mother of All in the Torah and the New Testament.

"But some of what is written in those texts is not going to make it to the other side. Only Love will (survive). But...I have met a few Christians and Jews.. Muslims too...Hindus... Zoroastrians...Rastafarian's...and even some Atheists who I have admired thus far. And one thing I am certain about from my visit to the other side is that every act of Love they experience (all of them) - and every...Loving intention from everyone is immortal. Love will never die.

"I know there are laws like gravity...look twice before crossing a road... and a bunch of "don't do" this laws. But the "do" laws are the ones that stand out to me as what have the greatest possibility of making it to the other side. These "do" laws came to me as I was contemplating the other side.

"There is a huge artistic endeavor called Love. Do add your part to the bigger picture of who and what Love is. And while those acts of Love you do may be chiseled out of the hard rock of a hard life, with tremendous energy and effort - they don't have to be.

"A gentle look...a kind word...and every little bit of joyful laughter you experience will find itself in the grand masterpiece called Love.

"So while you are dodging traffic and building things that crumble into dust, do look twice at the natural beauty of this world...and do stop and smell the wild roses along the way.

"This sad and dying world will one day go up in flames - and anything less than Love in it will be forgotten. But a new earth is being formed in timelessness. Do your part of sculpting Love in your little corner of your perceptions, I will do mine and we can meet each other on the other side and admire the artwork we the greatest Love story ever told."

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

How To Save The Bewitched Feature Franchise


ISABEL, asleep, dreaming, confused.

She awakens in shock, panting...and calls for "DARRIN!!!!!"

MALE runs into shot, with his back to the camera.

What is it, Sweetheart? What's the matter?"

Oh, Darling. It was horrible. I dreamed I was some kind of
actress in a television remake of our lives. Apparently, I was
this other witch playing me in a TV show. But it wasn't me.
Aunt Clara was there...and so was Uncle Arthur...and yet, it
wasn't them. They didn't look like themselves. And neither
did YOU. You didn't look like YOU!! It's just all so confusing...!

Hey, hey, hey. It's okay.
Now look at me... do I look like me now?

We see JIM CARREY, where we may have expected Will Ferrell.

(whom we now realize IS really SAMANTHA)
Yes, of course.

She embraces him with tears of joy.

It's okay, Sam. It's all over now.

Oh, thank goodness it wasn't real.

Sweetheart - THIS is real. WE are real.The real story of how we met and fell in love isone for the ages. Do you remember?

Of course, I remember....

We then cut to my script.

Monday, October 22, 2007

HJ On KSAV California Radio On Tuesday Night

Herbie J will appear on KSAV radio
to talk in-depth about his new books:




Give a listen:

October 23
11 PM EST.

Click on the link below for more information.

Thursday, October 18, 2007

Mid-Fall Season 2007 Old-New TV Round-Up


60 Minutes (7:00 PM, CBS): Still as awesome as ever. The granddaddy of TV magazines treks on.

Extreme Makeover: Home Edition (7/8 PM, ABC): Above and beyond what a reality TV show should be (though the "tear" promos for reruns on TV Land should be presented with a little more sensitivity - as those families involved clearly go through life and death challenges).

Murder, She Wrote (7/8PM): The classic Angela Lansbury series marks a return to its original Sunday night slot, as the Hallmark Channel knows a good thing when it reruns one.

Paster Joel Osteen (8 PM, TBN): I loved this guy BEFORE he became a phenom - just as I was one of the first to love Star Trek - BEFORE it became cool to do so.

Desperate Housewives (9 PM, ABC): Game over.

Cold Case (9 PM, CBS): The chick still needs to comb her hair.

Shark (10 PM, CBS): Jimmy Woods is astounding in this very bright and tight show.

Sisters and Brothers (10 PM, ABC): You go Gidget!


How I Met Your Mother (8 PM, CBS): I have absolutely no idea why this dreadful show is on the air. Beyond Doogie Howser's regular role, this unfunny sitcom absolutely sucks. I sit there every week trying to laugh - trying to like it. But it's the Yes, Dear of its generation. The people involved should be ashamed of themselves.

Dancing with the Stars (8 PM, ABC): Every time I've seen it, I never not enjoy it.

Chuck (8 PM, NBC): Haven't seen it yet.

Prison Break (8 PM, FOX): I don't watch it.

Heroes (9 PM, NBC): Over-rated rip-off of X-Men. I like my superheroes in costume, thank you very much.

The Big Bang Theory (8:30 PM): I RUN to watch this show. HILARIOUS! LOVE IT! AWESOME!

Two And A Half Men (9 PM, CBS): I was much too hard on this show when it debuted. All I know now is that I laugh out-loud every time I watch it.

Journeyman (10 PM, NBC): Awe, come on - if you're gonna' do a time travel show, then friggin ' go WAY back in time - like they did on Time Tunnel in the '60s. None of this traveling back to 1996 crap. What's THAT all about?!


Beauty and the Geek (8 PM, The CW): How much do I love this show? Let me count the ways. Bottom line: this reality show has heart!

NCIS (8 PM, CBS): A fine hour of old-fashioned TV entertainment with a slight 21st Century edge.

Cavemen (8 PM, ABC): There was potential with this. But it's not ABOUT anything. I credit it only for attempting to address the issue of prejudice. But there is no story - or created mythology. Should be off the air and retooled after the producers purchase a copy of Bewitched creator Sol Sak's pristine book, The Craft of Comedy Writing.

The Unit (9 PM, CBS): Are they really serious about that title?

Cane (10 PM, CBS): It's good to see Jimmy Smits back on TV - and acting along icon Rita Morena? Very cool.


Kid Nation (8 PM, CBS): It's very scary how smart kids are today - and it's very scary that this is turning into a real-life Lord of the Flies.

Back to You (8 PM, FOX): Kind of a cross between The Mary Tyler Moore Show, Murphy Brown and Goodnight Beantown (which did the whole anchor-love-story first, years ago with Bill Bixy and Mariette Hartley (James Garner's married Poloroid wife from those classic TV-commercials).

Til' Death (8:30 PM, FOX): Just fine.

Pushisng Daisies (8 PM, ABC): Brilliant - in colors - and in execution.

America's Next Top Model (8 PM, The CW): Please remove Tyra Banks from all television.

Bionic Woman (8 PM, NBC): Get rid of the evil Bionic Woman; concentrate more on ONE cybernetic female at a time, namely the lead Jaime Sommers, and start respecting the mythology of the original series.

Private Practice (9 PM, ABC): I never watch Grey's Anatomy - so I don't care.

Dirty Sexy Money (10 PM): I heard somebody call this a Dynasty for the 21st Century. So, I guess that's okay.

Life (1o PM, NBC): Hope it runs 12 years.


Survivor (8 PM, CBS): Should be off the air, as it ignited the whole "mean-spirited" reality invasion (along with American Idol).

My Name Is Earl (8 PM, NBC): They didn't CREATE the "filmed-WITHOUT-an-audience" sitcom idea, you know....

Smallville (8 PM, The CW): The people from the new Bionic Woman series need to take a lesson from these guys in properly reimagining a classic superhero premise.

30 Rock (8:30 PM, NBC): Funny and great.

The Office (9 PM, NBC): Too mean.

ER (10 PM, NBC): Let's retire this puppy, with a DNR order, shall we?


Ghost Whisperer (8 PM, CBS): What a silly, silly delivery of such a potentially-great premise. Watch Medium (if you can find it) instead.

20/20 (8 PM, ABC): It belongs back at 10 PM.

The Next Great American Band (8 PM, FOX): The brilliant British Beatles would have never made the cut.

Moonlight (9 PM, CBS): What do you get when you cross Moonlighting with Angel? Apparently, this very mediocre series.

Friday Night Lights (9 PM, NBC): It took them HOW LONG to start airing this excellent series on Friday nights?

Women's Murder Club (9 PM, ABC): Perfect.

Men In Trees (10 PM, ABC): Find a replacement for Ann Heche - and everything will be alright.


The Lawrence Welk Show (7 PM, PBS): Sorry - LOVE it! The camp-appeal is irresistible.

Other than that, the networks change their Saturday night schedule every week, so who the heck knows?

Also, other than that - please cancel those violent CSI and Law & Order shows, all of which are too ghastly and goesh.

Monday, October 15, 2007

Herbie J Talks "Bionics" and "Life Goes On" With Ace, Marti & Bob

talks about his new books,
93.3 Fickle Random Radio.
Monday, October 22nd, 2007
7:30 AM
Click on the link below for more information.

Monday, October 08, 2007

A Row of White Stones

Every good thing that has happened in my career, has happened because of The Bewitched Book, which was first published in 1992.

After 75 rejections, and two cancellations, and following years of research and writing, I was just so appreciative of its publication - so much so, that I wanted to somehow "give back to the Universe" in kind.

One of the ways I did that was by planting flowers in the front of St. Anthony of Padua's Church. I had attended St. Anthony's School following a turbulent year at St. Augustine's and seven long happy years at St. Peter and Paul's.

St. Anthony's was special for many reasons. My eighth grade class was small (16 or 17, I believe) - and we bonded more closely because of it. St. Anthony's was close to the original location of Martucello's Bakery, which use to sell awesome personal pizza's for 50 cents. St. Anthony's was the church that my family attended after St. Pete's had closed, and which had also cojoined with St. Patrick's, our original parish (boy - we sure made our way 'round the saints, uh?). St. Anthony's was also located across from Jones Park, a mini-Lost Horizon amidst the city bounds, and also close by was Al's Stand (and their awesome lengthy and rectangular hamburgers). In essence, St. Anthony's was in the "old neighborhood."

So, I planted those flowers in the front...and cleared a path around the front of the walk-way and contoured a line of white stones.

I sacrificed much for that Bewitched Book, leaving LA and returning to Rochester to complete it. Upon that return, I didn't even have a car. So, when I planted those flowers in front of St. Athony's, I promised myself that I would water them. At the time, that meant taking a bus 12 miles down Lake Avenue from where I once again lived with my parents in Greece, NY, and then walking another mile-and-a-half to St. Anthony's.

Certain days, my father would take me - or I would bum a ride from a friend. But most days, in that glorious summer of 1992 - I took the bus.

I was just so happy to water those flowers, and I took so much pride in the path of those white stones.

Statues of St. Anthony, Jesus and the Blessed Mother surrounded the exterior of the church. And I would pray in front of each one as I tended to my new adopted garden.

Down deep, on some subconscious level, I knew that I had planted more than just a few flowers and sprinkled more than just a row of white stones.

Wednesday, October 03, 2007

How To Order "Bionic" and "Life Goes On" Books


New Books Are Now Available.

Order yours today!

The Six Million Dollar Man
The Bionic Woman



TV's First And Best Family Show Of Challenge

The price for each book is $35.00 or both for $60.00 (all of which include shipping and handling). For orders outside USA, please add $7.50 for each book, and use international money order.

Please make your check or money order made payable to "Herbie J Pilato", and mail to:

Herbie J Pilato
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Unit 120-Nort Village
Rochester, NY 14609
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Either way, be sure to relay how and to whom you would like your book signed - and on what date. “Happy Birthday"? "Happy Valentine's Day"? 10/9/07? 1/25/08? etc.

Tuesday, October 02, 2007

Herbie J Talks "Bionics," "Life Goes On" and "Bewitched" On "Stu's Show"

Herbie J Pilato will make a guest-appearance on Stu Shostak's radio show, Stu's Show, Wednesday, October 3rd - live from 4:00 to 6:00 PM (PST) on Shokus Internet Radio (

Stu's Show is the signature program on Shokus Internet Radio, and features interviews with top celebrities both in front of and behind the scenes in television. Previous guests have included Dwayne Hickman (The Many Loves of Dobie Gillis), Pat Harrington (One Day At A Time), Larry Mathews (The Dick Van Dyke Show), Stan and Barry Livingston (My Three Sons), and many others.


The emphasis of this edition of Stu's Show will be on the history and success of Bewitched, and its stars and production team.

Listeners are encouraged to call in with questions on the toll-free number:

(888. 746.5875)

The program will be rebroadcast at the same daily (except Sunday) through Tuesday, October 9th (which just so happens to be Herbie J's birthday).

Shokus Internet Radio is a service of Shokus Video, a company that has been supplying classic 1950s television to the home video market since 1979. Shokus Internet Radio brands itself as "TV on the Radio for Baby Boomers", and sports a 24/7 schedule featuring talk shows, interactive game shows, comedy shows, vintage radio broadcasts, and music ranging from big band to easy listening, all geared to those who grew up watching TV in the '60s and '70s.

Saturday, September 29, 2007

"It's All About 'Timing'"

I've known many wonderful women in my life - and I've had many great relationships. Some have lasted six years, others six months, others still, only three days.

Then, there are the potential relationships that never had a chance...the many times awesome women came into my life and we never seemed to click.

I used to think those potential relationships never had a chance because I wasn't tall enough, or I didn't have enough money or because I cry at sad scenes in movies (sorry, but it's true - that's what I do).

But it's none of those things.

The great relationships that never transpired, never transpired because of bad timing - mostly on my part. In fact, for an actor, I have some of the worst timing on the planet. Not to mention, the thickest skull. I've had women flirt with me and come on to me, and I would be so oblivious to them - or think, "Nay - she can't want me. I don't have enough money for her" or "I'm too old for her" or "I'm not good enough for her."

None of that was ever true, but I would talk myself out of any pursuit.

Then of course, days or weeks or sometimes only minutes later, I would catch myself and flirt back. Or ask for her number - or just come right out and let her know that I'm interested in her. But it would be too late.

Again - I missed my timing - or didn't play by the unspoken three-second rule that potential partners play.

What's the three-second rule?

It goes something like this:

If you're out at a bar, or you meet someone at a party, and you sense a mutual attraction of any kind, from your end or theirs, you move quickly - within three seconds - to let them know you're interested. And you do that with a great "rap" - or a great opening line - spoken either by the man or the woman.

But those lines have to be sincere. They could be corny - but they definately need to be sincere.

Case in point: A few years back, I was swimming at Greenleaf Meadows - an apartment complex that I used to live in with my parents and sister when we moved from Erie Street. After my father passed away, and we moved from Greenleaf, I went back for a visit-swim, to catch some rays and try to regroup and be reflective on the developments of the previous weeks.

Anyway, as I'm reading my TV Guide, this beautiful blond goddess with the bluest eyes I had ever then-seen placed her towel about three feet away from my chase lounge. She smiled at me and said, "Hi." I smiled back and said, "Hello." There was clearly an attraction, despite the fact that I was reading my TV Guide. We talked a little bit, and I probably cleared the three-second rule just fine, but I was little down that day - and really didn't know if I had the energy to pursue this woman (or quite frankly any woman at the time), or to at least let her know that I was interested.

So, after an hour or so, she began to pack up her towel and leave. I sensed she was a little disappointed that I didn't ask for her number - or that I didn't ask her to at least have dinner. But I was about to fix all that.

As she left the pool and started walking towards her car, I dropped the TV Guide on my chase lounge, and sprung over to her and spurted out, "Excuse me - can I ask you a question?"

"Okay," she said.

"What's it like to have blue eyes?"

She laughed and replied, "I don't know - what's it like to have brown eyes?"

Don't ask me where that question came from. All I know is that I meant it, and within the hour, she and I were discussing the details of that question over lunch at the famed Schaller's resturant at the corner of Edgemear Drive and Beach Avenue. From there, we went on to have a wonderful relationship (that later ended because she left me for some dude with yellow teeth - but we'll save that part of the story for another blog post).

The best part of this story is the first part of the story - how we met because I made sure not to miss our timing and made certain to have my rap down.

In recent years - because of various challenges, mostly including caring for my Mom - I've missed my timing a lot - too much in fact.

The Universe has introduced me to many charming women who have let me know in one subtle way or another that they were interested in me, with each of them waiting for my response. But in each case, I missed my timing, didn't play by the three-second rule, or didn't have my "rap" down.

I've been so busy caring for my Mom, and pursuing my career - aspiring to secure myself with more money, thinking that, in today's world, that's what it's all about with women. I falsely believed that all they cared about was how much money you have, or what kind of car you drive, and rediculous things like that.

Don't get me wrong. Money is important - and we should all be concerned about securing our financial futures. But what good is all that success if you have no one to share it with - and if you keep missing your timing?

That said, the next "time" I meet someone wonderful - someone who I believe is interested in me - I'm not going to miss my timing. I might not be at a pool, reading my TV Guide. But if I see someone who catches my eye, and she catches mine, maybe I'll tweak my rap just ever so slightly, and ask, "How would you like to go out with a guy who has brown eyes?"

Monday, September 24, 2007

My Own "TV Land"

I was worried about myself there for a minute.

A few weeks ago, I wasn't as excited about the new TV season - or even receiving the new Fall Preview edition of the TV Guide. Truth be told, it's just not the same as the little digest format.

Then, I thought, "Have I grown-up? Matured? Lost passion for the industry?"

Well, of course I've grown up and matured. And yes - maybe in recent years I became a little jaded as certain creative projects that never transpired. But I tried to keep up my spirits.

Then, this morning - something wonderful happened. After watching a few TV ads and looking through the reworked TV Guide, I did get a little teeng and tinge of excitement - just like the ol' days...when I was a kid...or my twenties...or just last year.

So, I'm now looking forward to the new TV season...the new shows...and of course, shows like the new Bionic Woman.

Yes, I'm now a man in his forties - a mature soul with a child's who, down deep, will always appreciate the miracle of communication...and how the great invention of television may ever somehow, someway always provide a positive "outlet" for good programming - beyond PBS and The Discovery Channel.

And that isn't to knock those networks, but I think television works best when the viewer sits down in front of it, and is entertained by a quality, scripted regular "TV show," be it a drama, sitcom, adventure of 90-minute Movie-of-the-Week. That's one of the reasons why I created my TV & Self-Esteem Seminars - the lecture series that I bring to schools, colleges, and community and business organizations. These Seminars set out to fill the gap between pop-culture and academia, to prove that television, popular television, in particular, can be educational - in a fun, informative and productive way.

In many ways, television is an uptapped resource for education. And I owe my career to it.

That all said, someday, I hope to repay the favor - with a hit show of my own, one that is fun, somehow educational, family-friendly and, more than anything - entertaining.

Sunday, September 23, 2007

A Tribute To Marcel Marceau

One winter evening, some twenty or so years ago, my good friend Andrea Whitcomb asked me if I would like to accompany her to a performance of Marcel Marceau - the famed international mime - who appeared here in Rochester at the equally famous and world renown Eastman Theatre. Because Andrea was and remains such a talented performance artist in her own right - known in some parts of the world as the Singing Mime, I of course accepted her invitation.

I knew how important it was for Andrea to attend Mesuir Marceu's performance. Me? I was not into Marcel. Oh, sure - I remembered seeming him a few times on The Merv Griffin Show or The Mike Douglas Show. But I never had a true appreciation for his art - that is, until after I viewed his astounding performance for the first time in person, this night at the Eastman. The show, I believe, went on for 90 minutes or so. And there I stood, sad and stunned into, well...silence.

After the show ended, Andrea asked me if we could go out into the small alley behind the Eastman Theatre, and wait to meet Marcel and get his autograph. I said, "But of course." I knew how much meeting him would have meant to her. Thoug, I didn't think it would do anything for me.

Once more, however, I was wrong.

That said, we indeed waited in the back alley behind the Eastman Theatre. And as I further recall, it was a long wait - in the brisk cold air of that winter night. What's more, it was only the two of us. No one else in sight.

Then, after thirty minutes or so, Marcel exited - in a long dark fur coat with a pleasant smile on his face, both humbled and estatic that what appeared to be his two biggest fans in Rochester were waiting to meet him.

Andrea chatted with him a bit, he signed our programs with delight, and then walked off in the cool night air, down that long dark alley, out into the street, assumingly towards the selected
hotel in which he was booked to stay for the night.

As both Andrea and I gazed at his gait, with his back to us, his walk became surreal, as he almost appeared to disappear.

Andrea and I, neither primed for the less dramatic, took note of the scene and smiled.

Clearly, it was a magical night, as Marcel Marceau was a magical performer. He had a magical walk, on and off stage.

And now, Mesuir Marcel Marceau has passed away into spirit. He has walked down the dark alley of life and stage for the last time, and yet happily, into the bright, white and ever so peaceful and silent - Light.

Saturday, September 22, 2007

Alice Ghostley, Esmeralda on Bewitched, Passes Into Spirit

Alice Ghostley, the Tony Award-winning actress best known on television for playing Esmeralda on "Bewitched" and Bernice on "Designing Women," has died. She was 81.

Ghostley died Friday at her home in Studio City after a long battle with colon cancer and a series of strokes, longtime friend Jim Pinkston said.

Ghostley made her Broadway debut in "Leonard Sillman's New Faces of 1952." She received critical acclaim for singing "The Boston Beguine," which became her signature song.

Miles Kreuger, president of the Los Angeles-based Institute of the American Musical, said part of Ghostley's charm was that she was not glamorous.

She was rather plain and had a splendid singing voice, and the combination of the well-trained, splendid singing voice and this kind of dowdy homemaker character was so incongruous and so charming," Kreuger said.

In the 1960s, Ghostley received a Tony nomination for various characterizations in the Broadway comedy "The Beauty Part" and eventually won for best featured actress in "The Sign in Sidney Brustein's Window."

From 1969 to 1972, she played the good witch and ditzy housekeeper Esmeralda on TV's "Bewitched." She played Bernice Clifton on "Designing Women" from 1987 to 1993, for which she earned an Emmy nomination in 1992.

Ghostley's film credits include "To Kill a Mockingbird," "The Graduate," "Gator" and "Grease."
She was born on Aug. 14, 1926, in Eve, Mo., where her father worked as a telegraph operator.

She grew up in Henryetta, Okla.

After graduating from high school, Ghostley attended the University of Oklahoma but dropped out and moved to New York with her sister to pursue theater.

"The best job I had then was as a theater usher," she said in a 1990 Boston Globe interview. "I saw the plays for free. What I saw before me was a visualization of what I wanted to do and what I wanted to be."

She was well aware of the types of roles she should pursue.

"I knew I didn't look like an ingenue," she told The Globe. "My nose was too long. I had crooked teeth. I wasn't blond. I knew I looked like a character actress.

"But I also knew I'd find a way," she added.

Ghostley, whose actor husband, Felice Orlandi, died in 2003, is survived by her sister, Gladys

Tuesday, September 11, 2007

"Loving-Kindness" Is Still My New Favorite Phrase

A few posts in the past, I talked about how the term, "Loving-Kindness" had become my new favorite phrase. Well, it STILL is. Bottom line: Each of us is a Beacon of Light for the other. As such, we all need to cut each other some slack, expand our margin of error for one another, and be willing to begin again - whenever we get the chance. We have to be kinder to one another. We have to listen to those who are not heard...speak to those who are about those who are careless...reach out to those who are otherwise with those who work too hard...laugh with those who shed too many tears. We should give to those who only know how to take and keep...offer peace where there is unrest...and so on, so forth, and so good. This is the stuff from which true Loving-Kindness springs.

So, rise to the challenge, my fellow Beacons of Loving-Kindness today and every this moment...and in every second. In doing so, your heart will be replenished, you become a gift of grace to others, and your own life is blessed.

Monday, September 10, 2007

Release Of Herbie J's New Music CD: "Two"

I am proud to announce the release of my new CD, entitled, "Two." It features two songs for which I wrote the music and lyrics and was produced by George Schnell Productions.

See below for more details - and look to the left of the blog page for a peak at the CD's cover.

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Herbie J Pilato


How Can I Get Close To You (music and lyrics by Herbie J Pilato)

Pound Pound (music and lyrics by Herbie J Pilato)

Produced by George Schnell Productions, Rochester, NY.
Lead vocals: Herbie J Pilato
Background vocals: Herbie J Pilato
Guitar/Keyboards: George Schnell
Bass/12-String Electric Guitar: John Perevich
Drums/Percussion: Joe Minotti
Musical arrangement: Herbie J Pilato

Erie Street Entertainment Copyright 2007
2515 Culver Road
Suite 120-N
Rochester, NY 14609

Cover Photography: Sam Amato
Cover Design: Matt Hankinson

Tuesday, September 04, 2007

Artist George Borrelli Appears At Clothesline

My talented cousin and uniquely creative artist George Borrelli, will be exhibiting his work at the Clothesline Art Festival Saturday September 8th (10 AM- 6 PM) and Sunday Steptember 9th (10 AM - 5 PM) on the lawn of the Memorial Art Gallery, 500 University Avenue, in Rochester, New York.

George, who's craftmanship and artistic vision is inspiring, eclectic and beautific, will be in Space 270 (O.S.C.C.) on the left side of the Gallery.

Please stop in and visit his new line of Gates and Accessories.

For more specific information, feel free to call George 585.589.4618 or 585.729-9619, or to email him directly via

Tuesday, August 28, 2007

Bionic Woman

So far, so good - of the previews that I've seen of NBC's new Bionic Woman.

That is to say, "I like it. I really, really like it!"

Friday, August 10, 2007

Life Is Good

Decisions, decisions, and more decisions?

Nay -

Whatever decisions we make are the right ones.

The Universe will support whichever way we "decide" to turn.

So, trust the Universe - and just be happy NOW.

Tuesday, July 31, 2007

Lifetime Care Presents: "Acting As Caregiver" - with Herbie J Pilato

is proud to announce our newest, most unique program...

A Theatrical Exercise In Sustaining A Healthy and Productive Perspective In The Face Of Challenge - with Herbie J Pilato

For many, being a caregiver is a life filled with numerous challenges that call for a particular brand of stamina. Sometimes the caregiver does not always have access to the emotional and/or psychological tools to deal with those challenges. The caregiver may have the energy, but more times than not, it gets lost somewhere in the shuffle of overwhelming exhaustion that periodically proves detrimental in the life of both the caregiver and the patient. As a result, the caregiver may no longer understand or know how to cope, objectively, with the situation at hand.

With our new program, Acting As Caregiver: A Theatrical Exercise In Sustaining A Healthy and Productive Perspective In The Face Of Challenge, actor/author Herbie J Pilato - a caregiver himself -helps to focus the caregiver's energy more productively. By employing the creative technique of improvisation, as well as theatrical character and scene study, Herbie J helps the caregiver clarify their sometimes overwhelming situation.

Acting As Caregiver is, bar none, one of the most unique programs offered as support for the caregiver, and should not be missed. Call now (see contact information below) to reserve your seat - and to benefit from this wonderful exercise.

To register for ACTING AS CAREGIVER with Herbie J Pilato, please contact Theo Munson at Lifetime Care, @ 214.1414 or email Ms. Munson at

Thursday, July 26, 2007

"For The Fun Of It"

I've read a ton of spiritual books in my life. But no passage in any of those books say so succinctly and so pristinely what this next particular message (from an Angel) relays about the true joy of life and our PURPOSE in connection with God=Love. On page 209 of THE ANGELS WITHIN US, author John Randolph Price publishes a quote from an awesome Angel who told him:

Live for the fun of it...

Play more, for the fun of it; love and make love more, for the fun of it. Touch and hold and kiss the one who lights up your life, for the fun of it...

Laugh and giggle and sing and dance, for the fun of it, as a little child without a care, for truly...there is...only today.

Be unconditional and nonconforming, a little crazy, for the fun of it. Be a gleeful self and see a hilarious world, for the fun of it.....

Trust the Presence and Power of God, for the fun of it. Surrender to the activity of God in every aspect of life, for the fun of it.

Do everything in life just for the fun of it....

Tuesday, July 17, 2007

"Fire the Grid" And FORGIVE And LOVE Everyone Who Hates You

I once heard a very wise Yogi tell me, "The crust of the Earth is held together by the love of God."

Hold your world together tighter today, and hold on to those you love, forgive everyone who has ever hurt you and send out nothing but LOVE.

Check out the links below and send out your LOVE and FORGIVENESS to everyone - even those who hate you and hurt you, and even those you yourselves hate. Maybe even if you hate yourself.

Either way, turn that hate into LOVE. Erase that hate with your LOVE and FORGIVENESS and we will have a beautiful new Earth in the process.

Trust me, things cannot go on like they have. Things MUST change.

Be a part of that changing your heart.

Forgive the person who stole your true love - or your life savings. Forgive the parent who beat you, the teacher that failed you or the boss the fired you. Forgive yourself for not being where you want to be, or not being who you thought you'd be by now.

Forgive with LOVING-KINDNESS - and that LOVING-KINDNESS (which IS you) will help you to rise above it BE above it all....

Give LOVE to those who are unlovable. Reach out to do those who are unreachable. And trust that the "crust of the Earth is held together by the LOVE of GOD - which IS the LOVE you share - which is YOU."

Do it today. And then do it again tomorrow, and the day after tomorrow, and onto forever.



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Saturday, July 14, 2007

The Flip-Side Of Love Is Still Love

It was time to rework the issues recently stated in a previous post on how NOT to behave towards yourself.

So, here now are affirmations for true SELF-LOVE, stated in first-person:

SELF-ACCEPTANCE: I see myself in union with my family. I build myself up, and I know my opinions and preferences are important.

SELF-LOVE: My correct inner voice tells me how okay it is to love myself in an unselfish way. As a result, my body/soul/spirit connection reacts with pure health in every way.

NON-COMPETATIVE: I easily defer to others.

TRUTH OF BEING: I am complete as I am.

GENEROUS: I share all I am and have with others, understanding that we are linked and united and that there is no separation.

PEACE: I accept and embrace my IQ, appearance, body, parents, race, birthplace,

TRANQUILITY: I allow others the chance to offer their love to me and I embrace it.

SILENCE: I listen to others and their opinions, needs, feelings, knowledge or just chit chat.

SECURITY: I feel safe, valued and loved.

TRUE SELF: What I am is what others see.

WORTHINESS: I am worthy of blessings.

SELF-CONFIDENCE: I build myself up, and maximize my strengths. I have faith in my loving perceptions and abilities, and I always make wise choices.

BALANCE: I embrace my life's good balance, purpose and plans - and the big picture.

PERFECTION: I feel good about myself always.

SELF-JOY: I acknowledge the progress and growth in my life, and I identify with the success of my past, present and future.

SELF-ESTEEM: I view myself as a success and feel lovable. I am whole.

SELF-FORGIVNESS: I am quick to forgive myself and others.

APPROVAL: I have complete unconditional love and acceptance for myself.

NECESSARY/NEEDED: My contributions to the world are worthwhile.

FAITH: I trust always that I have success on every level of life and view myself as lovable - forever and ever.

Wednesday, July 11, 2007

Bread & Circuses: Diet Affects Your Energy

I walked my daily walk yesterday - and it was less than beneficial.

I was literally draggin' my feet. In fact, a fellow walker/fast-walker streamlined right by me and I said,

"Hey, Dude - you gotta' an awesome pace there. And here I am draggin' my feet."

"Awe, now," he replied, "the pace don't matter. Just as long as you walk."

But I believe he was incorrect. I believe that the pace does indeed matter - and not only that - but the energy BEHIND the pace also matters.

And my energy yesterday was lacking...and again, "dragging".

So I traced my steps for that day and wondered why....

It came down to inappropriate carb choices:

I ate an apple (way too much natural sugar for me) and I had a turkey sandwich ("bad" combination of meat and bread).

Both choices were a mistake.

I should have chosen a pear instead of that apple...and maybe some strawberries (both pears and strawberries are awesome calorie-killing fruits).

The turkey in the sandwich was okay - but not the bread.

For me, anyway. (It was a bad mix. Bread and meat. Nay.)

Everyone's matabolism is different. But for me, bread, pasta, and apples are the wrong three-ring circus for me to play in.

They just don't work.

My body gets bloated, I have less energy - and my pace in exercising is thrown off.

As a result, I have a less-than happy day.

Happy days should transpire EVERY day.

Be CONSCIOUS of what works for you, and what doesn't - physically, emotionally, psychologically and in every way, every day. And your days will be happy, long-term (and not just with short-term satisfaction that, ultimately, proves to be destructive - or energy-draining).

Tuesday, July 10, 2007

How To Love Yourself (In An Unselfish Way)

Did you know that one of the most productive, constructive and beneficial things that you could is to love yourself in an unselfish way?

The ability to sincerely love yourself, as well as the ability to sincerely love love others and life in general, is far more important that any gift, talent, skill, calling or resume.

The problem is that most of us do not know how to love ourselves. We measure ourselves by our performance and by the opinion (and I stress the word "opinion") of others.

Instead, we many times remain isolated from others and, ultimately, lose our capacity to love. As such, our true self-love erodes, and we lose the ability to love, period.

Negative perceptions attack us with lies about who we are, false perceptions of what people think of us, and lies about what we believe what even God may think of us.

Unfortunately, there are many unloving perceptions that we wrongfully assign ourselves to undermine our self-esteem and our ability to trust and to love - ourselves and others

See how many of the following "unloving perceptions" prevent you from loving yourself - and then commence to eliminate them from your life and then start living your TRUE LIFE OF JOY. I know I recognize way too many of them in my own personhood.

So let us work together to "kick them out of our lives" forever.

Here we go:

SELF-REJECTION: You see yourself as the "non-person of the family"; you call yourself names, and believe that your opinions and preferences are not important.

SELF-HATRED: Your own misguided voice sometimes tell you that you hate yourself. As a result, your body/soul/spirit connection reacts with infirmities, auto-immune illnesses and diseases of unknown causes.

COMPETITION: You must always win and manipulate for self-promotion. You do not defer to others easily.

SELF-PRIDE: You crave a professional position, a relationship or material things to "complete" yourself or to maximize your potential. (The thing is: You ALREADY ARE complete; you just haven't realized it yet.)

SELFISHNESS: You are overly-sensitive to whether you are getting your share (i.e. of the love,) when you want it and how you want it. You take the exalted "I" and "I will" stance; falsely believing that you can live your life independently, by your own strength, with your own own talents, gifts and resources (and without needing anyone else).

REBELLION: You reject your IQ, appearance, body, parents, race, birthplace, etc.

ATTENTION-GETTING: You demand attention from people before they even have a chance to offer their love or at least before they can reject you. You are an easy prey for counterfeit love.

EXCESSIVE TALKATIVENESS: You are driven to dominate conversations with your opinions, needs, feelings, knowledge or just chit chat.

INSECURITY: You are easily offended, over react, feel devalued and take things too personally.

FABRICATED SELF: Your prematurely create a niche for yourself and tend to project yourself as more qualified than what you really are.

UNWORTHINESS: You fear that you are unworthy of blessings (based on your performance.)

SELF-DEPRECATION: You torture yourself by calling yourself names, cutting yourself down (as humor), minimize your strengths and maximize rour faults.

SELF-COMPARISON: You measure yourself negatively in contrast to the progress, blessings, gifts, talents and accomplishments of others.

SELF-ASSERTION: You are not asking for what you need; you demand with pressure, control or manipulation.

SELF-DECEPTION: You rationalize unhealthy reactions, beliefs and behaviors. You defend them when others attempt to tell you otherwise.

SELF-QUESTIONING: You constantly doubt your loving perceptions and abilities, and tend to believe that you will choose unwisely.

SELF-INDULGENCE: You are addicted to ineffective coping mechanisms like overspending, binge eating, kleptomania, drug abuse or therapy that "never seems to take effect!"

SELF-IDOLTRY: You obsess about your agenda, your needs, your successes and your "glory", instead of embracing your life's good balance, purpose and plans - and the "big picture".

PERFECTION: You only feel good about yourself if your performance meets the unreasonably high standards of others.

SELF-ACCUSATION: You refuse to acknowledge the progress or growth in your life, and you identify only with my past failures and project those failures into the future.

SELF-CONDEMNATION: You constantly view yourself as a failure, inadequate, inferior, unattractive, take the blame for all bad things that transpire, and feel unlovable. You believe that you are shameful because you are basically defective.

SELF-BITTERNES: You keep a record of your failures, withhold forgiveness from yourself, and resent yourself for being imperfect.

UNFORGIVING TOWARD YOURSELF: You have a false humility that tells you that it is more holy not to forgive yourself and that you should instead punish yourself.

NEED FOR APPROVAL: You attempt to earn "unconditional love and acceptance" (an oxymoron) by meeting the supposed expectations of others.

NOT NECESSARY/NOT NEEDED: You agree with devaluating condescending lies and conclude that you are not valuable and that your contributions are not worthwhile.

SELF-DOUBT AND UNBELIEF: Your disqualify yourself, settle for less, believe you are most unlikely to have success on any level of life and believe yourself to be unlovable.

SELF-DENIAL: You tend to exclude yourself, isolate yourself and suffer vs. asking for what you need.

SELF-ABSORPTION: You obsess on analyzing yourself, your interests, your needs, figuring out your own way or ruminating about your "issues".

SELF-ABUSE: You blame yourself, drive yourself with drugs or unrealistic demands, deny basic needs, volunteer for martyrdom, victimize yourself, are addicted to self-destructive behaviors.

SELF-PITY: You accept the identity of a victim, stay stuck in the past, become someone who is not healed, and insist that you should be pitied rather than believe that you can release your pain and make way for healing.

SELF-SABOTAGE: You "shoot yourself in the foot" because you are afraid to receive promotion, compliments or great opportunities. You disqualify yourself when you are afraid of succeeding. You push love away for fear of inevitable rejection.

If you find any of these false perceptions and out-right lies to be implanted in your mind, you have the power to renounce them in your life - and replace them with TRUE SELF-LOVE.

In other words, you truly have the ability to love yourself in an unselfish way.

Now CLAIM that ability.

It is yours and it always has been.

This affirmation, said every day, should help:

"I renounce and break all false agreements with anything that is less than love. I choose only to receive Love and give Love. Love fills every empty place in my life with Peace. I am precious, loveable, totally forgiven, unconditionally loved and accepted, completely apart from my performance. I choose to receive all the blessings that I have been afraid to receive. I am restored."

[Special note: This blog was inspired by the wonderful website, CROSS WALK LIFE, via this link:]