Saturday, February 14, 2009

Love Yourself Enough To Stage A "Reinvention"

"...If you had only known how. And once I showed you the way to the New World, nothing was easier than to follow it."

- Christopher Columbus


"If life doesn't offer a game worth playing, then invent a new one."

- Anthony J. D'Angelo

Hello Everyone -

Most of the time we can't embrace a new way of thinking or a paradigm until we let go of the old ones. Especially the old way of thinking that doesn't work. Yet, overcoming old paradigms is a large part of knowing who we are and what we want to accompish in life.

If only we each had Angels who would walk us down the path of life, addressing all our "issues" and showing us that fear is often exaggerated in our minds. The truth is, we do have Angels. We are each other's Angels...sometimes we show up as Cupid on Valentine's Day. Sometimes we show up as Guardian Angels. But one thing is for sure, we show up. And, if you'll have me, I'd like to show up be your Angel for offering a few inspirational thoughts on "Reinvention."

Below please find an essay from Anthony J. D'Angelo, of After that you'll find a poem, entitled, "Life's Contact," written by an Anonymous author. Both the essay and the poem address reinvention.

On Valentine's Day - and every Day - it's always important to remember to love ourselves (in an unselfish way)...enough to know that the past is always gone...all that matters is the present...and to remind ourselves that hat we have a wonderful ability to reinvent ourselves at every turn. And that as long as we have only the best of intentions - for only the highest good of all those concerned, then everything is going to be alright.

Happy Valentine's Day!

Herbie J


The Essay, "Life Reinvented," by Anthony J. D'Angelo (

A reality that we forget is that as we travel through life is that we are constantly reinventing ourselves. Some how when we "grow up" we think we have finished this process. We begin to think that who we are is who we are. This concept of having grown up and knowing who we are in all actuality can be damaging. I hear all the time that you are supposed to discover who you are. That idea is again reinforcement that there is a definition of you and that your goal in life is to discover that.

If you stop and think about your life, you will see that there was never a definition and that who you are is always changing.At one point, you were in grammar school. When you went to junior high school, you reinvented a lot of who you are. Then in high school, you changed. Just when you get the hang of high school, it is over. If you go to college, once again a new you; a you not living with your parents.

Then a few years later as you hit the job market a new you has to emerge yet again. Your reinvention is endless as you develop romantic relationships, get married, have kids, have grandkids, overcome obstacles, move. You are always playing a new role and always reinventing yourself.

Your success in life depends on how well you reinvent yourself to new circumstances as they are presented. When you get stuck in your old roles, you limit yourself. The captain of the high school football team has to learn a new set of skills and roles as he moves forward in life. This is true throughout your life. I always tell people that there is no definition of you other than the definition you give yourself.

You can reinvent yourself at any moment in time.Often our definitions of who we are limit our success by declaring that we are forgetful, not on time, can't control this or that, don't like to exercise and more. This definition ensures that we do not change our behavior towards success.

Furthermore, we recreate the same relationship patterns by thinking we are a certain way. Besides the personal definitions that keep us trapped in failed behavior and situations, there is also the career definition that controls us.In these economic times of layoffs and insecurity, it is more important than ever to realize that there is no definition of you. You can reinvent your skills, your career and your life. In these challenging days, knowing that can be your greatest assets towards new success.

Remember that there truly is no definition of you. You can give yourself a new definition. Start creating definitions that will lead you towards behavior that will create success in your physical, emotional, relationship, career, financial and spiritual life.Do not get stuck in your old inventions of you. Your life is your invention. Who do you want to invent, today? Inspire someone you love."


"Life's A Contract" - The Poem by Anonymous (via

I bargained with life for a penny.
And life would pay me no more.
However, I begged at evening.
When I counted my scanty score.
For life is a just employer.
It pays you what you ask.
But once you set the price.
Then you must bear the task.
I worked for a menial hire.
Only to learn dismayed.
That any wage I asked of life
Life would have willingly paid.

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