Wednesday, June 16, 2010

My Sister's "Pure" Message From My Parents

The connection was strong between not only me and my Mom - but between me and my Dad as well. They are both fine in Heaven, and I know this now more than ever.

But in times of joy and sadness, loss and victory, deep feelings of missing my parents resurface in one form of another.

Yet, the message this time is to move on and forward - with joy.

As I found myself once more dealing with loss of my parents, my sister Pam happened to call me.

We both cried on the phone. But in the next hour, she sent me an email, which was filled with words that were not of this world.

Our Mom and Dad, Frances Turri and Pompeii, were clearly speaking through her to me when she wrote with such grace the words I now feel compelled to share with all of you. And may these words somehow bring comfort to you in whatever loss you may be experiencing and may they help you, as they have helped me, to move on...and forward...with only joy. Here now is what my sister relayed to me with regard to caring for and then losing our Mom and Dad:

"Herbie J - There was nothing more humanly possible than you could have done. Stop crying. And move on. Live your life knowing you did everything you could for Mom and Dad. They were very good people who lived simple lives and asked of nothing from anyone. They did their job. They were tired. And it was their time. They were pure."

In memory of my Parents, and in view of the great love that my sister and I had for them, and still have for them, know that the Love we ALL share with each other - in one form or another, in this world, and on into the next world, is "pure"...a purity that should only encourage us to move and look forward to the future...from this moment on.

Shine on, Everyone. Shine on.

Sunday, June 06, 2010

"I Love Lucy - and My Mom"

For one reason or another I've been watching alot of Lucille Ball's old shows lately, with everyday screenings of everything from I Love Lucy to The Lucy Show to Here's Lucy, and even her various specials that she did over the years.

I've also been reading every book about her that can find. And this morning, I read one particular biography of hers, titled, I LOVED LUCY by Lee Tannen (St. Martin's Press, 2001), in which I learned that Lucy never liked to say goodbye...that she always insisted on going out the same door that she came in, and that her favorite flower was the lilac.

As it turns out, my Mom ("St. Frances of Turri") never liked to say goodbye ("Say, 'see you later,' instead," she'd tell me)...insisted on going out the way she came in...and her favorite flower was the lilac.

Seems to me that my Mom and Lucy have somehow connected in Heaven, and have worked out this neat plan to let me know everything is just fine.

Tuesday, June 01, 2010

Be Mindful Of Your Words

Words and thoughts are things. And we should use them wisely. We should speak only kind words...think only kind thoughts...and act in only kind ways. If anything, we can at the very least, try to be nice...or to say nice words and think kind thoughts.

There are many people to whom I would like to say unkind things. But I hold my tongue for many reasons - mainly because it's just not nice...and also because it just ain't worth it.

When I was a kid, and whenever there was a possiblity of a fight with a neighborhood bully, my beautiful Mom, "St. Frances of Turri," would always advise me by saying, "Don't dirty your hands." In other words, don't dirty your soul...soiling your hands by even touching anyone who wants to fight.

And the same goes for verbal disagreements or arguements. "Don't dirty your mouth in retaliation to someone else's hurtful, mean-spirited words."

I have found that some people like to fight, verbal or otherwise. They enjoy conflict and confrontation.

I, however, do not.

Ultimately, I am mindful of my words - and how important they are in relationship to others in my life - and my life, in general.

For as Emerson wrote, "No man is an island. No man goes his way alone. Whatever we send into the lives of others, comes right back into our own."

As such, my recommendation is that we send out only good words...good thoughts...and kind acts...for the development of our souls - and for the highest good of all those concerned.